recently i told my best friend who's a male, that i loved him. not in the i wanna fuck you way, but the "your part of my family, and you've helped me a ton" kinda way. now i know i'm not the most macho dude, but he's also one of the few dudes i know who actually feels emotions, or sometimes shows that he's got feelings. we both recently helped each other out in major ways over the holidays. in fact he's a huge part in the fact i rekindled with my mother finally, and also helped above and beyond the call of duty to make sure xmas eve went off without a hitch. my mom has always considered him her 2nd son [his moms barely ever been in his life]. i've considered him my brother when we were teenagers, and again now. we fell out of touch for a few years, ya know with relationships and all. odd thing is, if you went back 10 years ago the cards were stacked against him yet in my favor. yet he's got a career [union laborer], a house, a wife and a child, and i've got a peice of fucking paper and the shreds of the life i used to live.....
i really credit him and his wife for pulling me out of the funk i was in for 2011. in fact sense i spent too much money getting their daughter presents i had asked if i could hit em up after xmas. but i had wrote each of them a personalized letter, explaining how much they helped me and how their officially family [they came to xmas eve at my moms]. i was pleasently surprised that i was not only accepted as a best friend to both, but i gained the title of "uncle vilbe" [yea i subsitituted there]. we had been best friends growing up, and even for a bit after, just fell out somewhere along the lines. we picked up right where we left off though, and i learned by hanging out with the two of em often enough, that their pool of friends who accept them as a family is quite small. i guess a lot of mitch's other friends either didn't wanna deal with him having a wife, or child, or both. thats quite fucked up IMO....
well its xmas eve nite, and the two of them are trying to put together rory's drum set. neither of em know how, so i went up and helped em out. mitch and i between the last 3 weeks have had a few deep conversations. i learned his biological mother lives within 10 miles, yet has never seen her granddaughter. i also learned that his wife's family kind of spoils the shit out of rory, and that it gets to him sometimes.
they're very positive people though for my life. mitch doesn't do drugs, and barely drinks [beer, and usually 2-3 unless theres a reason ya know?], he'll maybe eat/smoke pot 2-3 times in a year [he's always been that way]. even without doing drugs though, he's quite a sharp cookie on what he does know about em [between me and his wife he's pretty good with his pot knowledge]. his wife smokes pot, but only at night usually after the daughters long asleep [the responsible thing to do!] being from california, she's spoiled compared to the shit out here. they both most likely know i had a drug problem, even if its never been bluntly talked about. i thank him alot actually for not letting me go off by myself new years eve because i probally would of relapsed with mel....
while we reconnected prior to thanksgiving, i'll say december was our first month back in each others lives like we used to be. its nice to have someone to count on, a lot of the work i did at my moms prior to xmas eve wouldn't of been possible without him [think i could build a deck rail? or chainsaw anything? pleaaase], funny thing is we've always been a yin-yang in the fact one of us teaches the other, or vice versa. i didn't realize until quite recently how important we've been to each other through out our lives. like i used to have him come to my moms with me when i was a teenager so i wasn't bored, and when his mom came back in the picture he asked me to go with him for support. i see so much of him in his little girl, its scary. they look almost identical at that age.
i <3 my adopted family
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Topic: best friends: do you love them? (Read 263 times)